How to get your ex back for good!

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Hi there, I know that you got here because of the “sound” of the title and I know for sure you’re looking to get your ex back into your arms. This is one of those good news/bad news situations. I’ll start off with the good (I know a lot of people prefer it that way); you CAN get your ex back for good!

O.K. here comes the bad news; you’ll have to do some hard work to get there. This is not an easy task and you’ll need to make big adjustments not only in regards to the relationship with your ex, but also in your life all together.

There are a few basic steps that have proven to be very effective in this game of love, I’ll just ran them by you for now and then go step by step.



Step 1. Agree with the break up

Step 2. Stop all communication with your ex

Step 3. Improve your life

Step 4. Re-evaluate your relationship

Step 5. Get your ex back

Step 1. Agree with the break up

This may sound very opposite of what you might have expected. I know you don’t see the link between “getting your ex back” and breaking up with your ex, but to get your ex back for good, you’ll need to react opposite of what is expected of you. Once your ex informs you that you should break up, you’ll need to do the opposite of what your instincts are telling you to do, don’t resist the break up. Tell your ex you agree and you also think you should break up. Be very calm and cool about it.

This is the last thing your ex expects you to do. Now you’ll catch your ex completely off balance. He or she was prepared for you to beg or plead at least be sad about the break up… not for you to agree and stay calm. So use this in your advantage since your ex will almost immediately start to question the decision to break up.

If you’re already past this point, its fine, just make sure you send a quick email to your ex telling him or her you’ve spend some time thinking about it and you agree 100%.

Step 2. Stop all communication whit your ex 

To get your ex back you’ll first need to lose your ex entirely. Doesn’t make any sense? Well this is also counter-intuitive. You need to let your ex know you won’t be here waiting forever and missing him or her. Just cut it all of – don’t answer any of your exe’s phone calls, don’t send texts, don’t communicate over the social networking profile pages and don’t email your ex. Behave like he or she doesn’t exist. Make your ex miss you and wonder about where you are and what you’re doing… make your ex think about you, not the other way around

Step 3. Improve your life

Now this is the part I love. It’s time for you to spend all your time, energy and money on the person you love the most – yourself! You’re going through a hard time; why not spoil yourself a bit? If there is something you’ve always wanted to do or try, now is the time. You may take a wild trip somewhere or just try a new look you didn’t think would fit you or your ex didn’t like. If you’re not into that, fine, you can just enroll in a gym or try out a new hobby, whatever you pick make sure you do it because you want to and it makes you happy!

Also go out with your friends, you’ll never feel better being home alone feeling sorry for yourself and looking at the pictures of the two of you. Go out and try to have as much FUN as you possibly can. You owe it to yourself.

Step 4. Re-evaluate your relationship

This is perhaps the most important part, people who are trying to get an ex back often neglect.

Do you really want to get your ex back?

Is your life better or worse now that you’ve been on your own off a while? How do you feel about your ex now, do you want to get your ex back cause you love him or her or do you want them back cause you’re mad? Or you’re trying to prove to yourself that you can still have him or her? These are all the q’s you’ll need to answer for yourself before you decide to get back with your ex and only proceed to the next step if you want to get back with your ex cause you’re still in love with him or her.

Step 5. Get your ex back

Wow so you really have been through a lot, congratulations. If you’ve managed to complete all steps so far this will, by far, be the easiest for you. Pick up the phone, call your ex and tell him or her you want to say thank you for something your ex did while you were together. Don’t let him or her know what it is over the phone. Once you see your ex face to face be your charming self and flirt with your ex like you did when you first started to date!

The last tip I have for you is right here how to get your ex boyfriend back!   

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